There are plenty of times when we fail ourselves as parents. We blame and punish ourselves and even fight with our partners for not being best at their respective roles.
If you’ve felt this way before or you still do, let us tell you that taking things more calmly can help. Sometimes we need to start treating ourselves better and everything will seem to fall in place.
How to start becoming a better parent?
Commitments are like responsibilities and when we make them, it helps us become more responsible. Let us check out the best ways you can become a better parent and a happier person:
- Commit to taking care of yourself
If you commit to keeping yourself centered you will not only be happier but also patient with your child. It helps you integrate a daily level of self-nurturing.
You can start by going to bed early, eat healthily, and these will improve your mood. It will ward off negative thoughts and encourage the younger ones to do better.
You should slow down the pace of your life to enjoy some times and do things that you love. If you commit to managing yourself, you will know how to manage the rest too.
- Love your partner
One important thing about child development is to see own parents love each other and feel loved. There are many kids whose parents don’t stay together and it impacts deeply on their childhood.
Having love in the family helps children have a positive approach to life. It helps parents understand how their child thinks as it shapes up the behavioral patterns in kids.
- Commit to role modeling
If you want to raise kids with values you have to set good examples. To expect respect and consideration from them in their teen years, you need first treat them respectfully.
Parents have plenty of reasons to get angry with their kids, but the cardinal rule is to manage emotions. If you’re not setting good examples, they will not follow your footsteps.
You might want to allow kids to have a life of their own and discover who they are rather than making them follow your footsteps. However, setting examples will help them differentiate between right and wrong.
- Teach them emotional intelligence
Kids need to understand the different types of emotions they go through and manage them. Teens go through several hormonal changes that leave an impact on their behavior. They do not always realize how they behave or how they should behave.
You need to soothe them and help them understand the types of emotions they feel. If they’re angry or frustrated you must sit and talk out what is going on in their life to help them understand that too. We must empathize with the emotions children have and help them express it.
- Monitor the child’s behavior
It isn’t enough to teach your kids but also find out how it implies them. There can be times when your kids do things that displease you. You might not feel extremely pained by their gestures or remarks, but yelling at them will not make things any better.
Parents need to address children’s behavior and help them bring in a difference. Parents who address the needs of children can easily notice and cure problematic areas. You must reward them if they are getting better and are eager to obey and understand what they’re told.
- Commit to guidance and not punishment
Most parents fail to understand that kids need a certain level of guidance that isn’t always punishment. You can always ground them for the wrong things they do, but you need to make sure they realize their mistakes.
Guidance shows them the right path whereas punishment can make them feel unloved. Many kids start hating their parents because they don’t understand the good intentions parents have behind their criticism. Thus, you have to be firm and not angry, you have to guide and not punish.
- Commit to importance and gratitude
You need to stay positive and choose the battles you happily sign up for. Negative interactions with kids can be the base of a valuable relationship. But you must focus on the things that matter and treat your child accordingly.
It reflects on how your child behaves with cousins or siblings, or people they are elder too. For example, your child might have a messy room, but it isn’t right to yell at him all of a sudden. Tell him that he must clean it once he’s done playing so that he takes it as a responsibility, not punishment.
- Commit to self-acceptance
If you want to feel loved you have to offer love too. We can only get love when we’re willing to give it away. We can give our kids as much as love our hearts can hold. Stretch your heart out and make them feel warm. You will be amazed to find your kids response.
- Keep perspective
Your kids will always make mistakes. But as parents, even you’re not perfect – none of us are! Families must live and accept the flaws each one has to thrive happily. Accepting kids is important to not have false expectations or force them against their will.
- Share your life with them
There comes a point in life when parents must share their lives with their kids. It might be during their early teens because they are more emotionally smart at that age. They start realizing situations and their repercussions. They also start taking things more maturely and smartly.
If you share what is going on in your life, they become more open to you about theirs. There comes a point in time when parents need to befriend their children and make them more comfortable.
You will just know when the time is right to spill the beans you need to, and you’ll be surprised that they hear you out and even understand you! Take one step at a time to realize how helpful these commitments are and how it shapes your bond.